Last night my husband and I went out for an early Birthday meal and it got me thinking about how much easier going out was before we had the boy.
Don’t get me wrong, I love my husband and son and I wouldn’t swap my family for the world, but since I became a mother I’ve had almost no time to myself. Of course, I knew what I was letting myself in for, but I really wish I had made the most of those quiet few weeks of maternity leave before the boy arrived.
1. I miss sleep.
Long weekend lie-ins seem like a distant memory. An entire night of unbroken sleep would be paradise. Just not having to jump out of bed, change a nappy and make breakfast the second I wake up would be a treat. Seeing the boy’s little sleepy face is a welcome reward, but I can’t wait for the day I get my sleep back.
2. I miss baths.
I’m not talking your quick, functional wash. I’m talking bath bombs, bubbles, music on or a good book. Laying back in the steam with a face mask on. Relaxing. Not having to evict bath toys first and rushing because I feel guilty not spending that time with the boy or dinner needs preparing.
3. I miss lazy afternoons.
Those rare days when you don’t have anything you have to do. You can just relax in your partner’s company, watching TV or listening to music. Not needing eyes in the back of your head and falling over toys. A whole day with no responsilibility.
4. I miss boozy days and evenings with friends.
An afternoon in a sunny pub garden or an evening watching bands. Just relaxing with good food, good drink and good friends. Not having to arrange a babysitter, worry whether the baby is OK and be back by a certain time then be up for night feeds or early the next morning.
5. I miss going out with a hand bag instead of a changing bag.
I used to hate all the faff of getting ready to go out. How things change. Now I would relish an hour to do my hair and make up so I don’t look like I’ve been dragged through a hedge on the way to a restaurant, to get dressed in clothes without toddler spit and snot all over them, to wear high heels and carry a handbag with three things in rather than a jam-packed changing bag. To walk out the house and feel like Me, not Me-The-Mother.
What are your top things you miss from before children?